Changing Habits To Stop The Fear

Changing habits can help you eliminate the fear of making mistakes. You must have the courage to change and stand up for yourself.  Remember, no one is perfect.  Everyone makes mistakes and they learn from them.  Besides, making mistakes will only lead to other opportunities.

As a youngster perhaps you learned to play things safe.  As you grew up, you learned to avoid dangerous situations.  Maybe you were told to not say anything so that you wouldn't "rock the boat."

By playing it safe, you end up not taking any risks.  Risks aren't just the kind where you do bungee jumping, sky diving or riding a motorcycle real fast.

There are the other type of risks that affect how you live your life. 

These fears can really hold you back from reaching your goals.  You stay at a job because it pays your bills or you live in the same town you grew up in.

These fears of taking a risk hold you back.  You end up being too afraid to ask for a promotion, get out of a relationship or start a business. 

You could get rejected or fail miserably so it holds you back.  Instead of thinking about all the bad things that could happen, you need to turn things around and think about all the good things that could happen.

Changing habits to make yourself more successful does take work.  Instead of thinking the worst, you need to think of the best. 

Here are some effective goal setting tips on eliminating your fear from making mistakes:

Acknowledge where your need for perfection came from.

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Were you reprimanded as a child?  Did people criticize you or judge you based on the quality of your work?  Were you made fun of and laughed at when you made mistakes? 

Perhaps you were rejected by others because you couldn't be perfect.  Somewhere deep in your mind, you associate the fear of making mistakes from the past to things you do now.

I remember being in a reading group in the third grade.  I had the fear of reading the paragraph with the word, chimpanzee, which I couldn't pronounce.  Lo and behold, I got that paragraph.  I was so scared.  When I got to chimpanzee, I pronounced it wrong. 

All my fears came true.  This boy, named Jimmy, laughed at me and then said it correctly.  I carried that type of fear forward and tried to be perfect.  Changing habits in that instance was very difficult for me.

What do you think will happen when you make a mistake?

If you hang out with the wrong people, do you think you'll become a drug addict and thief?  If your grades aren't good enough, do you have the fear that you won't make it into college?  Or maybe you think that you will be yelled at all the time or looked at like a person that can't function in this society. 

Imagine the worst case scenario if you make a mistake.  How would you handle it?  What would you do next?  How would changing habits help you do what's right?

Remember a time when your mistake wasn't so bad. 

Did you make a mistake where you thought the world was going to end and it didn't?  When I was younger, I worked as a waitress, it was close to closing and a party of four came in and ordered big dinners.  The workers were tired and they just wanted to close up.  I made the mistake of dropping the dinners as I was bringing them to the table. 

I was mortified.  The worst case scenario was that I could lose my job.  That never happened.  All the workers were not thrilled that they had to stay longer to cook, clean up and so on.  The cooks were nice about it, the customers were nice about it and the managers were nice about it.

Change your viewpoint about mistakes. 

Your beliefs on what happens when you make a mistake develops as you mature.  If someone yells at you or criticizes you, then you'll associate mistakes with something bad that happens.  If you look at it, you learn from your mistakes. 

When you were a child learning how to write, you made many mistakes.  You weren't very good at it but you kept on trying.  You would put extra lines in the "E" or put all the letters of your name on the paper, but not in the right order. 

As a kid you were proud of your work.  No one gave negative comments.  If everyone received negative comments, then most people wouldn't learn to write.  These mistakes help you learn.  It's part of nature and how you develop as a person.

Look at mistakes in a positive light. 

Don't feel guilty and think badly of yourself when you make a mistake.  Instead, incorporate your leadership philosophy and remind yourself that this was something to learn from.  Think about this experience and how you would changing habits will affect things in the future. 

Remember, as a kid you made many mistakes.  You put shirts on backwards, shoes on the wrong feet, made your bed wrong, broke a window, didn't walk the dog and so on.  You eventually learned to dress yourself the right way, paid for the window and cleaned up the mess from the dog.  All of your mistakes have made you into the person you are now.

Try something new. 

Follow your passion. Take action and try new opportunities.  Go ahead and make mistakes.  You'll just learn from changing habits and it will get you further in your life and career.

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